Occupational hazard

So, I have this cousin I really like a lot who is a soldier. He has just returned from Mazar-i-Sharif, Afghanistan, where he served his first six-month mission as a part of a peace troupe. I have spent almost two hours talking to him on the phone about his time there. To be completely honest, I just wanted to hear info on those mission first hand, cause of the professional interest I have in it as a historian. Now I feel really bad cause I encouraged the kid to talk about it so much, while not caring really about what it was like for him or that he made new friends etc. I feel really bad. :/